ARUA. The communications officer of Madi and West Nile diocese Mr Martin Bileni has said the community dialogues being held on social challenges is an opportunity for the church to identify problems off the pulpit.

Bileni said this despite acknowledging that most of the community dialogues usually degenerate into blame trades between women and men with non-seldom taking responsibility for societal evils.

“The blame game between women and men gives us an opportunity as church to first of all identify that there are issues in the community and families that need to be addressed at the pulpit but also off the pulpit”, Bileni stated before adding “Our wish is that we can inculcate a culture in our people that living good and living at peace should be part of our culture, somebody should not be told more so at the family level”.

Men 10 06 19The men usually hit back at their women for ills in the homes. PHOTO BY RIMILIAH AMANDU.

He said mutual living should never be a responsibility of the man alone neither should it solely rest on the woman but a shared responsibility.

Bileni was moderating a community dialogue at Nyio Market in Vurra sub-county Arua district on Friday; the province of the church of Uganda through its Directorate of Health has set up the special program to reach communities through dialogues off the pulpit to address common social problems.

It targets action on reproductive health, maternal health, family planning, HIV/AIDS and reduction of gender based violence in families. The dialogue at Nyio market was about causes of maternal health.

What they said during the Nyio market dialogue

Ms Eunice Amanziru

Women die while giving birth because of over bleeding and sometimes if you have complications with your womb. Men are so stubborn and some don’t have love for their wives, the government should take action to discipline such men because we have so many of them in our community.

Ms Harriet Gasi, from Anzuu, Vurra Sub County

Our men don’t want to buy the key requirements that are needed before delivery in the hospital; When you go without these things, the nurses quarrel and you get ashamed before the public eye; so some of the women fear to go and deliver in the health units, in any case of complications, they can easily die at home.

Mr Benson Olia, from Pembgeleku village, Nyio parish

This time, ladies are like flees, they keep jumping from one man to another unlike in the past when women used to respect their marriages.

I have eight children and my wife and I have kept together for all this time, when she misses her period, she tells me immediately and we start giving her the right diet, until when she delivers the baby but such is not the case with most marriages of today.

I agree women should deliver in health units because there is a lot of diseases in the atmosphere and a lot of germs that one can easily contract if not handled carefully during delivery.

Mr Lamek Adriko, Kpembgeleku from village

It’s true, there needs to be cooperation at home, I have five children and all of them were delivered from the health unit.

The problem is that sometimes women like copying too much, they like to compare with other people and yet I may not be getting a salary but just a peasant farmer getting everything from the garden, so what do I do in that case?

During pregnancy, the woman should reduce the amount of work they do, People should also go to the hospital with the man so they can test their blood through such I think we can reduce maternal deaths.

Ms Molly Edaru from Adravu East village, Ezuku parish

Sometimes it’s my fellow women who are the cause of these problems, the man gives you most of the things and yet you don’t want to have cleanliness, the nurses are human beings and yet you come with all the stench, how then would you expect them to react?

There is a lot of early pregnancies and yet the girl is not mature, so the young girl gets a lot of complications during delivery and sometimes, unfortunately, dies in the process.

There is also a lot of delay from some of the women, they remain at home until it’s too late,